Assalamu alaikum Warahmathullahi Wabarakatahu.....
Mistake 1: Reciting Surat al-Fatiha fast without pausing after each verse. The Prophet (SAW) used to pause after each verse of this surah. (Abu Dawood)
Mistake 2 : Sticking the arms to the sides of the body, in rukoo' or sujood, and sticking the belly to the thighs in sujood. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: "Let not one of you support himself on his forearms (in sujood) like the dog. Let him rest on his palms and keep his elbows away from his body." (Sahih Muslim) The Messenger of Allah (SAW) used to keep his arms away from his body during rukoo' and sujood that the whiteness of his armpits could be seen (Sahih Muslim).
Mistake 3 : Gazing upward during prayer. This may cause loss of concentration. We are commanded to lower our gaze, and look at the point at which the head rests during sujood. The Prophet (SAW) warned: "Let those who raise their gaze up during prayer stop doing so, or else their sights would not return to them. [i.e. lose their eyesight]." (Muslim)
Mistake 4 : Resting only the tip of the head on the floor during sujood. The Prophet (SAW) said: "I am commanded to prostrate on seven bones the forehead and the nose, the two hands [palms], the two knees, and the two feet." (Sahih Muslim) Applying the above command necessitates resting the forehead and the nose on the ground during sujood.
Mistake 5 : Hasty performance of prayer which does not allow repose and calmness in rukoo' or sujood. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) saw a man who did not complete his rukoo' [bowing], and made a very short sujood [prostration]; he (SAW) said: "If this man dies while praying in this manner, he would die upholding a religion other than the religion of Muhammad." Abu Hurairah (RA) said: "My beloved friend, Muhammad (SAW) forbade me to perform postures of prayer copying the picking of a rooster; (signifying fast performance of prayer), moving eyes around like a fox and the sitting like monkeys ( i.e. to sit on thighs)." (Imam Ahmad & at-Tayalisi) The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: " The worst thief is the one who steals from his own prayer." People asked, 'Messenger of Allah! How could one steal from his own prayer?' He (SAW) said: "By not completing its rukoo' and sujood." (At Tabarani & al-Hakim). To complete rukoo' is to stay in that posture long enough to recite 'Subhana rabbiyal Adtheem' three times, SLOWLY, and 'Subhana rabbiyal-a'ala' three times, SLOWLY, in sujood. He (SAW) also announced: "He who does not complete his rukoo' and sujood, his prayer is void ." (Abu Dawood & others)
Mistake 6 : Counting tasbeeh with the left hand The Prophet (SAW) used to count tasbeeh on the fingers of his right hand after salah. Ibn Qudamah (RA) said: " The Messenger of Allah (SAW) used his right hand for tasbeeh." (Abu Dawood) The above hadeeth indicates clearly that the Prophet (SAW) used only one hand for counting tasbeeh. No Muslim with sound mind would imagine that the Prophet (SAW) used his left hand for counting tasbeeh. Aa'ishah (RA) said that the Prophet (SAW) used his left hand only for Istinjaa', or cleaning himself after responding to the call of nature. He never used it for tasbeeh. Yasirah (RA) reported: The Prophet (SAW) commanded women to count tasbeeh on their fingers. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: "They (the fingers) will be made to speak, and will be questioned (on the Day of Resurrection.)" (At-Tirmidhi) The above Hadeeth indicates that it is preferable to count tasbeeh on the fingers of the right hand than to do so on masbahah (rosary).
Mistake 7 : Crossing in front of a praying person. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) warned: "Were the one who crosses in front of a praying person to know the consequences of doing so, he would have waited for *forty better than to cross in front of him." (Sahih Bukhari and Muslim).
*The forty in the tradition may be day's months or even years. Allah knows best.
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Monday, July 28, 2008
To judge or be judged?
In today's world, U have to be cool enough to judge other people.
"U know I think there's something behind that face of hers" etc etc.
Well, I am amazed when a person says such a thing about someone just after the first meeting, in which they probably spoke for 5-10 minutes.
Hello?How did u manage to judge her so soon?
And I don't even think it's right, becuz I din't feel anything of that sort.
I mean , c'mon, go ez.... when u judge and most of the times it will be something similar to the above, u will not be able to trust that person.
And also the next time u meet u will not be able to talk properly to that person cuz u'v spoken bad about her.There u have lost another opportunity 4 friendship.Who knows she might have been ur best friend if u had not judged.
But yes, if u r not judging....
U r being judged....
Yes, since I am not that cool to be able to judge like that at first meeting, I am almost always being judged. And even by people who know me well, and from them when i receive comments(made after judging me in their way i presume) like" u know ur scarf shud v been tied in some other way, it's not looking nice as it is", it hurts.(because they probably din't realize that it's their company i value , and i don't need their judgement, and the scarf is not supposed to be an attraction!!)
Why do we judge ? don't say u don't, because we do, sometimes even I do(but never at the first meet), but my judgement is not cast in cement, I change it(or try to) as soon as I hear something nice about that person, or the after some good behaviour from their side.
Don't u hear urself saying sometimes "Did u look at her dress/dressing style?"(what about their company then?U spoke to her so nicely in the party and all u'v got to say is this about her dress, and not about how nice a person she is?)
We dress up in a particular way or tell things just because we know we are going to be judged by that, don't we? We do.... I did sometimes especially if iliked the person whom i knew wud judge me. But i've stopped, cuz if those people can't like the rael me, i don't want their appreciation ta all.
We are losing many close and healthy relationships of ours due to this nasty habit of judging.
We find ourselves asking how come the people b4 our times were soo happy and the relationships were so close. That's because they din't judge , neither did they worry about being judged.
We want our generation to be the same na? so stop judging and ultimately u will not be judged as well. If u like this message of mine, tell about it to ur friends as well.
And if the judging has to be done, I prefer to be judged rather than judge....
What is ur opinion friends???? :)
"U know I think there's something behind that face of hers" etc etc.
Well, I am amazed when a person says such a thing about someone just after the first meeting, in which they probably spoke for 5-10 minutes.
Hello?How did u manage to judge her so soon?
And I don't even think it's right, becuz I din't feel anything of that sort.
I mean , c'mon, go ez.... when u judge and most of the times it will be something similar to the above, u will not be able to trust that person.
And also the next time u meet u will not be able to talk properly to that person cuz u'v spoken bad about her.There u have lost another opportunity 4 friendship.Who knows she might have been ur best friend if u had not judged.
But yes, if u r not judging....
U r being judged....
Yes, since I am not that cool to be able to judge like that at first meeting, I am almost always being judged. And even by people who know me well, and from them when i receive comments(made after judging me in their way i presume) like" u know ur scarf shud v been tied in some other way, it's not looking nice as it is", it hurts.(because they probably din't realize that it's their company i value , and i don't need their judgement, and the scarf is not supposed to be an attraction!!)
Why do we judge ? don't say u don't, because we do, sometimes even I do(but never at the first meet), but my judgement is not cast in cement, I change it(or try to) as soon as I hear something nice about that person, or the after some good behaviour from their side.
Don't u hear urself saying sometimes "Did u look at her dress/dressing style?"(what about their company then?U spoke to her so nicely in the party and all u'v got to say is this about her dress, and not about how nice a person she is?)
We dress up in a particular way or tell things just because we know we are going to be judged by that, don't we? We do.... I did sometimes especially if iliked the person whom i knew wud judge me. But i've stopped, cuz if those people can't like the rael me, i don't want their appreciation ta all.
We are losing many close and healthy relationships of ours due to this nasty habit of judging.
We find ourselves asking how come the people b4 our times were soo happy and the relationships were so close. That's because they din't judge , neither did they worry about being judged.
We want our generation to be the same na? so stop judging and ultimately u will not be judged as well. If u like this message of mine, tell about it to ur friends as well.
And if the judging has to be done, I prefer to be judged rather than judge....
What is ur opinion friends???? :)
Sunday, July 27, 2008
For ur benefit friends
Since i posted about girls(Islamic duties), I felt it was not balanced, so here is the post about boys.
Friday, July 25, 2008
Beauty
When my profile says simple... u may not realize what I am talking about...
but I am serious...
now this thing about beauty...
Today if u talk about beauty, people immediately get this idea of perfect makeup, perfect hair, perfect dress, and perfect way of carrying ourselves.
But to me if i say I'm beautiful today.... it does not mean any of the above things...
It means... when I'm fresh...when i've prayed nicely......... and I've got no makeup on.... when i do not fear embarassment due to the way I will or could behave...when I'm comfortable...and when I'm with people who really love me and do not care what i look like, and I would be beautiful to them anyway...and when i feel innocent and am innocent.........
I'm beautiful when I feel beautiful...
but I am serious...
now this thing about beauty...
Today if u talk about beauty, people immediately get this idea of perfect makeup, perfect hair, perfect dress, and perfect way of carrying ourselves.
But to me if i say I'm beautiful today.... it does not mean any of the above things...
It means... when I'm fresh...when i've prayed nicely......... and I've got no makeup on.... when i do not fear embarassment due to the way I will or could behave...when I'm comfortable...and when I'm with people who really love me and do not care what i look like, and I would be beautiful to them anyway...and when i feel innocent and am innocent.........
I'm beautiful when I feel beautiful...
Never Too Old to Live your Dream
Never Too Old to Live Your Dream
The first day of school our professor introduced himself to our chemistry class and challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, “Hi. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?”I laughed and enthusiastically responded, “Of course you may!” and she gave me a giant squeeze. “Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?” I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.“I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting one!” she told me.After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this “time machine” as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.Over the course of the school year, Rose became a campus icon and easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet and I’ll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three-by-five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a bit embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, “I’m sorry I’m so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I’ll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know.” As we laughed, she cleared her throat and began:“We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy and achieving success.“You have to laugh and find humor each and every day.“You’ve got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and they don’t even know it!“There is a giant difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don’t do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eight-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That doesn’t take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding the opportunity in change. “Have no regrets. The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.”She concluded her speech by courageously singing “The Rose.” She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.At year’s end, Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s never too late to be all you can possibly be.
-Dan Clark
(chicken soup)
The first day of school our professor introduced himself to our chemistry class and challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, “Hi. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?”I laughed and enthusiastically responded, “Of course you may!” and she gave me a giant squeeze. “Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?” I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.“I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting one!” she told me.After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this “time machine” as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.Over the course of the school year, Rose became a campus icon and easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet and I’ll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three-by-five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a bit embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, “I’m sorry I’m so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I’ll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know.” As we laughed, she cleared her throat and began:“We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy and achieving success.“You have to laugh and find humor each and every day.“You’ve got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and they don’t even know it!“There is a giant difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don’t do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eight-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That doesn’t take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding the opportunity in change. “Have no regrets. The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.”She concluded her speech by courageously singing “The Rose.” She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.At year’s end, Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s never too late to be all you can possibly be.
-Dan Clark
(chicken soup)
Thursday, July 24, 2008
For women folk
A'ishah Radiullah Tala urged women to take good care of their husbands and to recognize the rights that their husbands had over them. She saw these rights as being so great and so important that a woman was barely qualified to wipe the dust from her husband's feet with her face, as she stated:
'O womenfolk, if you knew the rights that your husbands have over you, every one of you would wipe the dust from her husband's feet with her face.'37
This is a vivid expression of the importance of the husband's rights over his wife.
`A'isha wanted to bring this to women's attention, so as to remove from the hearts of arrogant and stubborn women all those harsh, obstinate feelings that all too often destroy a marriage and turn it into a living hell.
Honouring and respecting one's husband is one of the characteristic attitudes of this ummah. It is one of the good manners known at the time of jahiliyyah that were endorsed by Islam and perpetuated by the Arabs after they embraced Islam. Our Arab heritage is filled with texts that eloquently describe the advice given by mothers to their daughters, to care for, honour and respect their husbands; these texts may be regarded as invaluable social documents.
One of the most famous and most beautiful of these texts was recorded by `Abd al-Malik ibn `Umayr al-Qurashi, who was one of the outstanding scholars of the second century AH.
He quotes the words of advice given by Umamah bint al-Harith, one of the most eloquent and learned women, who was possessed of wisdom and great maturity, to her daughter on the eve of her marriage.
These beautiful words deserve to be inscribed in golden ink.
`Abd al-Malik said: 'When `Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybani, one of the most highly respected leaders of the Arab nobility during the jahiliyyah, married his daughter Umm Iyas to al-Harith ibn `Amr al-Kindi, she was made ready to be taken to the groom, then her mother Umamah came in to her, to advise her, and said:
`O my daughter, if it were deemed unnecessary to give you this advice because of good manners and noble descent, then it would have been unnecessary for you, because you possess these qualities, but it will serve as a reminder to those who are forgetful, and will help those who are wise.
`O my daughter, if a woman were able to do without a husband by virtue of her father's wealth and her need for her father, then you of all people would be most able to do without a husband, but women were created for men just as men were created for them.
`O my daughter, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to a companion with whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you he has become a master over you, so be like a servant to him, and he will become like a servant to you.
`Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision and a reminder for you.
`The first and second of them are: be content in his company, and listen to and obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and obeying one's husband pleases Allah.
`The third and fourth of them are: make sure that you smell good and look good; he should not see anything ugly in you, and he should not smell anything but a pleasant smell from you. Kohl is the best kind of beautification to be found, and water is better than the rarest perfume.
`The fifth and the sixth of them are: prepare his food on time, and keep quiet when he is asleep, for raging hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing his sleep will make him angry.
`The seventh and eighth of them are: take care of his servants (or employees) and children, and take care of his wealth, for taking care of his wealth shows that you appreciate him, and taking care of his children and servants shows good management.
`The ninth and tenth of them are: never disclose any of his secrets, and never disobey any of his orders, for if you disclose any of his secrets you will never feel safe from his possible betrayal, and if you disobey him, his heart will be filled with hatred towards you.
`Be careful, O my daughter, of showing joy in front of him when he is upset, and do not show sorrow in front of him when he is happy, because the former shows a lack of judgment, whilst the latter will make him unhappy.
`Show him as much honour and respect as you can, and agree with him as much as you can, so that he will enjoy your companionship and conversation.
`Know, O my daughter, that you will not achieve what you would like to until you put his pleasure before your own, and his wishes before yours, in whatever you like and dislike. And may Allah (SWT) choose what is best for you and protect you.''38
She was taken to her husband, and the marriage was a great success.
This advice clearly included everything that one could think of as regards the good manners that a young girl needs to know about in order to treat her husband properly and be a suitable companion for him. The words of this wise mother deserve to be taken as the standard for every young girl who is about to get married.
'O womenfolk, if you knew the rights that your husbands have over you, every one of you would wipe the dust from her husband's feet with her face.'37
This is a vivid expression of the importance of the husband's rights over his wife.
`A'isha wanted to bring this to women's attention, so as to remove from the hearts of arrogant and stubborn women all those harsh, obstinate feelings that all too often destroy a marriage and turn it into a living hell.
Honouring and respecting one's husband is one of the characteristic attitudes of this ummah. It is one of the good manners known at the time of jahiliyyah that were endorsed by Islam and perpetuated by the Arabs after they embraced Islam. Our Arab heritage is filled with texts that eloquently describe the advice given by mothers to their daughters, to care for, honour and respect their husbands; these texts may be regarded as invaluable social documents.
One of the most famous and most beautiful of these texts was recorded by `Abd al-Malik ibn `Umayr al-Qurashi, who was one of the outstanding scholars of the second century AH.
He quotes the words of advice given by Umamah bint al-Harith, one of the most eloquent and learned women, who was possessed of wisdom and great maturity, to her daughter on the eve of her marriage.
These beautiful words deserve to be inscribed in golden ink.
`Abd al-Malik said: 'When `Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybani, one of the most highly respected leaders of the Arab nobility during the jahiliyyah, married his daughter Umm Iyas to al-Harith ibn `Amr al-Kindi, she was made ready to be taken to the groom, then her mother Umamah came in to her, to advise her, and said:
`O my daughter, if it were deemed unnecessary to give you this advice because of good manners and noble descent, then it would have been unnecessary for you, because you possess these qualities, but it will serve as a reminder to those who are forgetful, and will help those who are wise.
`O my daughter, if a woman were able to do without a husband by virtue of her father's wealth and her need for her father, then you of all people would be most able to do without a husband, but women were created for men just as men were created for them.
`O my daughter, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to a companion with whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you he has become a master over you, so be like a servant to him, and he will become like a servant to you.
`Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision and a reminder for you.
`The first and second of them are: be content in his company, and listen to and obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and obeying one's husband pleases Allah.
`The third and fourth of them are: make sure that you smell good and look good; he should not see anything ugly in you, and he should not smell anything but a pleasant smell from you. Kohl is the best kind of beautification to be found, and water is better than the rarest perfume.
`The fifth and the sixth of them are: prepare his food on time, and keep quiet when he is asleep, for raging hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing his sleep will make him angry.
`The seventh and eighth of them are: take care of his servants (or employees) and children, and take care of his wealth, for taking care of his wealth shows that you appreciate him, and taking care of his children and servants shows good management.
`The ninth and tenth of them are: never disclose any of his secrets, and never disobey any of his orders, for if you disclose any of his secrets you will never feel safe from his possible betrayal, and if you disobey him, his heart will be filled with hatred towards you.
`Be careful, O my daughter, of showing joy in front of him when he is upset, and do not show sorrow in front of him when he is happy, because the former shows a lack of judgment, whilst the latter will make him unhappy.
`Show him as much honour and respect as you can, and agree with him as much as you can, so that he will enjoy your companionship and conversation.
`Know, O my daughter, that you will not achieve what you would like to until you put his pleasure before your own, and his wishes before yours, in whatever you like and dislike. And may Allah (SWT) choose what is best for you and protect you.''38
She was taken to her husband, and the marriage was a great success.
This advice clearly included everything that one could think of as regards the good manners that a young girl needs to know about in order to treat her husband properly and be a suitable companion for him. The words of this wise mother deserve to be taken as the standard for every young girl who is about to get married.
It's a start!!
I really don't know wat i want to write as my first blog.
Beginnings are always difficult.
I know I have loads of ideas for subsequent blogs.
sooo keep checking!!
Beginnings are always difficult.
I know I have loads of ideas for subsequent blogs.
sooo keep checking!!
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