To judge or be judged?

In today's world, U have to be cool enough to judge other people.
"U know I think there's something behind that face of hers" etc etc.
Well, I am amazed when a person says such a thing about someone just after the first meeting, in which they probably spoke for 5-10 minutes.
Hello?How did u manage to judge her so soon?
And I don't even think it's right, becuz I din't feel anything of that sort.
I mean , c'mon, go ez.... when u judge and most of the times it will be something similar to the above, u will not be able to trust that person.
And also the next time u meet u will not be able to talk properly to that person cuz u'v spoken bad about her.There u have lost another opportunity 4 friendship.Who knows she might have been ur best friend if u had not judged.
But yes, if u r not judging....
U r being judged....
Yes, since I am not that cool to be able to judge like that at first meeting, I am almost always being judged. And even by people who know me well, and from them when i receive comments(made after judging me in their way i presume) like" u know ur scarf shud v been tied in some other way, it's not looking nice as it is", it hurts.(because they probably din't realize that it's their company i value , and i don't need their judgement, and the scarf is not supposed to be an attraction!!)

Why do we judge ? don't say u don't, because we do, sometimes even I do(but never at the first meet), but my judgement is not cast in cement, I change it(or try to) as soon as I hear something nice about that person, or the after some good behaviour from their side.

Don't u hear urself saying sometimes "Did u look at her dress/dressing style?"(what about their company then?U spoke to her so nicely in the party and all u'v got to say is this about her dress, and not about how nice a person she is?)
We dress up in a particular way or tell things just because we know we are going to be judged by that, don't we? We do.... I did sometimes especially if iliked the person whom i knew wud judge me. But i've stopped, cuz if those people can't like the rael me, i don't want their appreciation ta all.
We are losing many close and healthy relationships of ours due to this nasty habit of judging.
We find ourselves asking how come the people b4 our times were soo happy and the relationships were so close. That's because they din't judge , neither did they worry about being judged.

We want our generation to be the same na? so stop judging and ultimately u will not be judged as well. If u like this message of mine, tell about it to ur friends as well.

And if the judging has to be done, I prefer to be judged rather than judge....
What is ur opinion friends???? :)